This is by Jonathan McIntosh, the producer for Tropes vs Women in Video Games. It contains these two very important points:
- If I choose to point out sexism in gaming, my observations will not be seen as self-serving, and will therefore be perceived as more credible and worthy of respect than those of my female counterparts, even if they are saying the exact same thing.
- Because it was created by a straight white male, this checklist will likely be taken more seriously than if it had been written by virtually any female gamer.
A lot of people who have been involved withs social justice and/or Tumblr for a while will already be on board with the idea that it’s really important to share the voices of those affected by oppression and demand that they be heard, rather than spreading the voices of privilege, who then (consciously or unconsciously) try and dominate the conversation, because they are used to being heard.
Women (both trans and cis, and genderqueer and anyone who identifies as a woman in some form) have said all this and more before. And I was inclined to move on by without reblogging as a result. But I think those last two points are so important. They are the points that mark this out as someone who is engaging in the effort to deconstruct his privilege with sincere effort.
Because they concede that they are saying something that has been said by other people before. They tell you that if you’re listening to him instead, you should have been listening to the women first.
Listen. Listen a lot. And absorb. Then speak. And when you do, concede that you do so with an awareness that you are not an authority. You are on the outside looking in. Speak because you know others will listen to you where they would not to a woman, and do so in a way that seeks to highlight and critique that impulse in your audience.